Change & Transformation, Life Journey

Why #FeesMustFall Protests is Good for SA

Rascals. Work-nots avoiding exams. Malicious vigilantes. Insurgents. Counter-insurgents. Revolutionary. But a few of the labels attached to the #FeesMustFall  protesters. So, which one is it – innocent students with legitimate claims or insurgents attempting to take down a country by ‘undemocratic means,’ as suggested in the article below. The fact is we don’t know yet which one it is or whether it’s some mix of all. And that is the important thing. The ball is still in play. And which part of that mix wins the day is up to us – yes, us. Both as ordinary citizens and more so, for those influences within civil society. This could be one of the most important occurrences in the history of our young, restless democracy since 1994.

And not only do we underestimate the enormity of the event but the seeds of opportunity that it presents. Whether this period in our history emerges as victory or tragedy turns on the wisdom with which we engage with it. The State is indeed rudderless. This is dangerous and yes, we could well find ourselves with a revolution sneaking up on us – and we will look back at newsreels and say the Fees Must Fall protests sparked it. Yet, if the surface of our society had remained smooth and unruffled, smeared with a veener of platitudes for much longer, this would have been an inevitable outcome anyway. And there lies the opportunity.

In the cauldron of these protests, in the murky messiness of burnt books, death and near-death; in the testing of our civil rights in direct confrontation with police and authority; in the confrontation of the validity of our social structures, lies the possible re-birth of our democracy. In our anger at the actions of protests, we fail to even consider the notion that the protests may bear potent fruits that deepen and widen the breadth of our democracy – if we so choose.

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Change & Transformation, Conflict, Identity

Becoming aware of the subtle language of racism

Arnold Mindell
Sitting in the Fire

“This demonstrates how the mainstream deals with racism. First of all, you come with some polysyllabic term that creates emotional distance…You decide you aren’t going to talk about racism or prejudice but ‘cultural diversity.’ That makes everything anti-septic. After exchanging politically correct cliches, you create a seminar, call it ‘diversity training,’ and claim the problem is fixed: there is no more prejudice. In this way, people with liberal educations throw up a smoke screen of fake communication and the problems of rank and race become further repressed. The mainstream assumes that… people should be ‘polite, confident and soft-spoken.’They keep a lid on passion, power, sexuality, and spirituality…the mainstream …communication style inadvertently presses minority groups into conformity.

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Change & Transformation, Coaching Programmes, Identity, Life Journey

The Narcissist & the Martyr

Note from Ulaysha:

I’ve recently been presented with a slew of people in my coaching practice looking for alternative ways to deal with what appears to be certifiable narcissistic bosses, parents, or spouses, who have inevitably drained the people around them of all  inner resources, judgement and in some cases, dignity.

This article (published in the Harvard Business Review as per the link above) is quoted for referencing of the personality type and for some seriously good advice on how to cope in the short term  – specifically in an employment situation.

However, it will be followed by the life journey perspective  on this issue, that will hopefully provide enough food for thought, to get you to the point where you ‘never’ have to face another apparent narcissist across the desk, at the kitchen table or in the bed next to you…

Article extract from Harvard Business Review:

MANAGING UP  How to Work for a Narcissistic Boss Rebecca Knight APRIL 01, 2016

Research shows there are a large number of narcissists who become leaders. If you’re unlucky enough to have one of these people as a manager, it may be no consolation that you’re in good company. So how do you stay sane? What’s the best way to reduce the impact of your boss’s self-centered behavior?

What the Experts Say
It’s easy to be fooled by a narcissist—at least at first, says Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, the CEO of Hogan Assessment Systems, a professor of business psychology at University College London, and a faculty member at Columbia University. “A narcissist comes across as charming, charismatic, and confident,” he says. “He seems like the kind of person you want to work for—it’s only later that you see the dark side.” And the dark side isn’t pretty, says Michael Maccoby, president of The Maccoby Group and author, most recently, of Strategic Intelligence: Conceptual Tools for Leading Change. Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of entitlement and require constant admiration. They are quick to claim credit for others’ achievements and blame colleagues for their own failures. They care only about their own success, and they’re willing to take advantage of others to get what they need. In short, they’re incredibly difficult to work for. If you’re stuck with one of these bosses, here are some strategies that might help.

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